Family Size
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I’m feeling a little (read: very) irritated with people!
We have 3 sprogs and are expecting a 4th. We are thrilled! We love our sprogs and love having “more” of them. People often comment on how brave, crazy, stupid etc, we are. I often wonder if they see 10 kids instead of the 3 that we have. We manage just fine, thank-you very much! Our kids are well behaved, kind, loving, compassionate and all around awesome. Yes, we have hard days where I can’t wait for bed time. But those days are thankfully, few and relatively far-between.
I’ve heard the same old things, so many times. “You won’t be able to give them the love and attention they need”, “you can’t afford them”, “how will you buy them the things they want?”, “what about wedding/cars/university?”. Those are just the most FAQ’s. I normally smile sweetly and try to explain our stand-point. But it all too often, falls on deaf ears. The people asking are normally wrapped up in their own agenda, and aren’t actually interested on what I have to say.
I know that by having a “larger” family, that there will be things we won’t be able to buy them. But I don’t think they’re important things. If they’re important enough! We will make a plan, or find a great 2nd-hand item. But things change. Who knows where we’ll be by the time our kids reach 16. Maybe Jesus would’ve returned, in which case all the worrying was for nothing. We’ll just take it day-by-day.
In having siblings close in age, they’re growing up and experiencing life together. Sure, they won’t always get along and they’ll moan and fight. But they’ll always have each other to play with, learn with, challenge, compete against and grow with. No friendship can replace that (or at least no friendship I’ve encountered). I can already see the bond between Jessie and Jack. Its a beautiful thing!
I’d love to have a truly big (6+ kids) family. But I’ll wait and see what God has in store for us. 
Also I’d never want to push B into having more kids than he is comfortable with. That would add a layer of complication and stress that we don’t need.
For now I’m going to enjoy being pregnant with our 4th miracle, love our kids and attempt to ignore the rude people who question us about our choice of family size!
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You have to concede though that you are lucky to have a big family. I would love to have lots of kids but education is in fact a serious issue for us.
Hi Pam
Yes, I’m incredibly blessed to have a big family. I do forget that sometimes
Education is a major factor for many people. Its very expensive if you go the private route, and government schools aren’t always wonderful.
What have you done about education?
Hi Lauren,
I am really enjoying reading your blog:-) I love babies, toddlers etc and it is so awesome to read your posts….I have also been wondering about family size coz I also want a big family…so this was an interesting post for me to read. You are so blessed to be able to have this….but i think you know that already:-) To watch those little personalities grow and bond must be awesome!! Did you both always know you wanted a big family or was it something that you guys discovered after the first baby? Keep up the good work…:-)
xxx
Hi Candice
My poor blog is so neglected! I have lots of half-finished posts that I really must get to
Kids are amazing! You never need any other form of entertainment
and yes, the bonding and love is truly awesome! The love you experience when you hold them for the first time, is unlike anything else. You know instantly, that there’s nothing you won’t do for them. Its such an amazing feeling.
I’m going to answer your question is a post. Its worth posting about.
Ill try blog more!
Thanks for reading