50 Shades… My take
No, this is not a review on the book. I haven’t read it and I have no intention of reading it. These are just my ramblings and thoughts on the hype surrounding it.
We all know that the book is classified as erotica. We know that it has been read by millions of women worldwide. We know that there are many women who have fallen a little ( or a lot) for Christian Grey.
I feel as though we are missing something fundamentally huge. How is reading it any different to our husbands/boyfriends viewing p0rn? How would we as women feel, knowing that our significant other was engaging with p0rn? Personally, I’d be livid! It would hurt me deeply and do substantial damage to my ego. When getting intimate, I’d question wether he was thinking of me or something/someone he’d seen.
Yet somehow, women reading this book is “ok”. Nevermind that one has to read the words and forms their own imagery in their minds of what’s happening. Nevermind that it’s then discussed at length with other women, reinforcing what’s been read and imagined.
Yes, I am aware that it’s not the first of its kind. The Collins’ have been writing this kind of thing for years. Heck, even Shakespeare and the Bible have some raunchy parts. But, this book has been wildly accepted by many. It is breaking the mould of what women en masse read and discuss and share.
We worry about men and p0rn, perhaps we should focus on what we’re reading and how we respond to it.
I hear you. I haven’t read the books myself either. Neither do I intend to do so. I just don’t like fiction!
I don’t think women realise the damage they are potentially doing to their sex life and marriages. They may think it is a great boost. But sadly, the novelty wears off pretty fast and the way this has imprinted on the brain of the women will forever change her arousal and performance. Not to mention how the new ideas and objects may imprint on the men and their expectations of things in the future.
As women we connect so many things – who needs a Christian Grey to be connected to your sex life? It’s a very tricky, slippery journey to partake in. And this will also desensitize a lot of women eventually!
They’ve clearly already become desensitized to the reportedly bad grammar and language.
AMEN!!! I was beginning to worry that I was alone in this. So glad that there is someone else who agrees
Let’s also not forget the impressionable young women/teens who are reading this. I can only imagine how they are affected by the books.
Apparently is appallingly written and the grammar, a sight to behold.